Motherhood: Surely there’s another way?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed since becoming a Mum, I want you to know that you are far from alone, and that there is another way to experience motherhood.

I’m Becky Selbie. A therapist specialising in supporting women through the variety of challenges becoming a mother can create. Oh, and a Mum of two, who also struggled in the early years of motherhood.

Motherhood can be both beautiful and brutally difficult - often in the same moment. Regardless of how “good” a Mum you are, or how much you love your child. It’s about the reality of motherhood today, the pressures women face and the feelings that we need to be perfect and instinctive at something we’ve not done before.

But it doesn’t have to be this way, and I’ve created (M)otherway to help you find, and follow your other way.

How i can support you

Counselling

If you’re struggling to cope day-to-day, and need someone to help you find solid ground again, then counselling is the right option.

Together, in a supportive and confidential space you will be guided and supported to work through feelings like:

  • Anxiety that just won't let up

  • Sadness that feels like it's taking over

  • Anger or rage that scares you

  • That crushing mum guilt

  • Constant comparison to other mums

  • Thoughts you're afraid to say out loud

  • Trouble bonding with your baby

  • Difficult feelings about your birth experience

You deserve to feel better. You deserve to enjoy motherhood. And I promise you—we can get you there.

(Wondering about coaching instead? That's a better fit if you're managing your daily life but looking for guidance to move forward and thrive, rather than just get through each day.)

Coaching

This option is perfect if you're curious about your struggles, and want to explore them alongside other women facing similar challenges.

Each week, we explore different aspects of maternal psychology in a warm, judgment-free environment. Between sessions, you'll have access to a dedicated group channel where I share additional exercises, celebrate your wins, and offer support during difficult moments.

This isn't counselling or therapy—it's a unique space between healing and forward movement where you'll:

  • Uncover unconscious "rules" expectations influencing your motherhood experience

  • Explore patterns of thinking and behaviour that keep you feeling stuck

  • Develop genuine self-awareness that leads to lasting change

  • Find freedom to mother in ways that align with your authentic self

  • Receive practical tools and frameworks to navigate challenges

  • Connect with women who truly understand what you're going through

online group

You deserve more than just surviving motherhood—you deserve to flourish in it. Coaching helps when you're functioning in daily life but feel stuck or uncertain about how to create positive change, and move forward with purpose.

As your coach I create a motivating, forward-looking partnership and together we create the motherhood experience you want, with practical strategies and supportive accountability.

Together, we'll work on challenges like:

  • Finding balance between motherhood and your own identity

  • Setting healthy boundaries with family and work

  • Managing your time and energy better

  • Rebuilding confidence in your choices & intuition

  • Navigating career transitions or returning to work

  • Creating routines that support your wellbeing

  • Strengthening your relationships

  • Developing your unique parenting approach

Uncover my story: The birth of (M)otherway

When I became a mother, I was utterly unprepared for how it would transform me. Following a traumatic birth that left me struggling in ways I couldn't have anticipated, I found myself searching for "perinatal mental health support"—a term I'd never even heard before.

In those difficult early weeks, something crystallized for me. Having already planned to leave my corporate career to retrain as a therapist, I now knew exactly where my passion lay: supporting women through the profound transformation of motherhood.

What I didn't realize then was that birth trauma was just the beginning. Over the following years, I experienced the full spectrum of what we call "matrescence"—the developmental journey of becoming a mother. I grappled with the loss of my former identity, perfectionism that wouldn't quit, an inability to ask for help, and the crushing pressure to be an all-knowing, all-coping superwoman. Eventually, this unsustainable approach led to depression and burnout.

It was through my own therapy that I discovered how deeply unconscious beliefs were shaping my motherhood experience—beliefs about my value, what motherhood "should" look like, and who I needed to be. With growing self-awareness came a profound choice: continue living by that inherited rulebook, or write my own.

I chose the latter. Learning to keep perfectionism in check, and discover that leaning into the discomfort of asking for help didn't bring the catastrophe I feared—instead, life became easier. I began enjoying motherhood more deeply with each passing day.

Today, alongside raising my two beautiful children, I've built a practice dedicated to supporting women through their own motherhood journeys. I believe passionately that women deserve better preparation for this transformation, more support through its challenges, and freedom from the impossible pressures society places on mothers.

This is why (M)otherway exists—because understanding ourselves and uncovering the stories that shape our mothering experience isn't just important; it's the path to liberation, joy, and becoming the mother you truly want to be.

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